His starting point is a reticence to embrace wholly the idea of ‘gay identity’, picking up instead on an understanding that recognises three axes of sexuality – attraction, orientation and identity. He writes:
To claim an identity based on sexuality is a relatively modern invention. People before wouldn’t have said, “I’m straight” or “I’m heterosexual” or “I’m homosexual.” Each is a sociological label that tends to carry with it a set of expectations of not only attractions but also practices.
Is it helpful to resist the notion that sexuality defines who we are?
His second question is around the ‘scripts’ or stories we tell ourselves that help us see our role and way of living in the world. He gives two examples.
Kirk concludes with the question;
Have we as Christians, both heterosexual and homosexual, bought in too much to the idea that our sexuality is at the core of our identity as persons? Do we all need to put sex on more of a back burner when it comes to who we truly are? Also, is there a compelling, alternative Christian script… as a counter-point to the homosexual script, that we should be promoting for everyone alike or for those who experience homosexual attraction in particular?
The issue of identity in particular has sparked some thoughtful and insightful discussion in the comments section.